I know you asked t his ages ago but I just saw it, you can get glyceryn at most pharmacies. You might have to ask because sometimes its behind the counter. They sell it in small bottles for just a coupla bucks and it will last you forever.

>> Are y'all sure those wig clips don't pinch? They look kind of scary.

No, they're not scary at all. And don't pinch either. Go to a beauty supply store & buy a pair - usually they come 2 in a pack for about $2. Pretty cheap, and then you can just try 'em out to see if you like them or not.

I get my clips at Sally's Beauty Supply (lady there had no idea what wig clips were, but it turns out that "extension clips" are the same thing). I love love LOVE them. There used to be lots of pain tolerated to have pretty medallions or kuchi pieces pinned in my hair, but now I just sew them to a clip and I can barely tell they're there...and the suckers never move! Best thing since sliced bread.

well to be honest the "whitening" is what happens anywhere there are conquered/subjugated people. the conquerers wnat everone to emulate them, their way is the "right way."
how many latino and asian women bleach their hair to be blonde?
south africa has its own myriad of problems.
and america, where i live, has made it its business to shove it all under the rug.
and part of the problem is that so many people become self-loathign and perpetrate the whole "game" on themselves.

i cut all my hair off a couple of years ago to get away from using relaxers. somewhere along the way, someone convinced us all that it was a great idea to put this chemical on our heads that is a step away from being drano, so that we could have smooth flowing locks and fit in. i mean clearly we wont be accepted without it, right?
and unfortunately, sometimes it's true.
when you have your own natural hair, people assume that you're some kind of militant afrocentric "sistah girl" who can't be reasoned with. if i decide that the standard of beauty is ridiculous and i throw it off and get my own hair back, suddenly tha tmeans i'm a terrible person.
note: i have no problem with people who like their hair to be straight, but i think you should make that choice completely out of preference, and not about of some subconscious need.

but at the same time, many of the most positive comments i've gotten about myhair have come from white people. many of the most NEGATIVE ones have come from black people. i get snickered at in the store by chicks who have relaxed their hair so much, you can see straight to their scalps. i get told "you have such thick hair, just imagine if it was straight and you could really do something with it."

i usually wear a headpiece towards the front and pile flowers around it, myhair takes up all the space in the back. but it gives me a unique profile, and i can pile quite alot of stuff in it. i dont even have to use clips, i can just cut the stems and stick the flowers straight into my hair because it's dense =p
so it has it's benefits.

at the end of the day, though, all that matters is what you're comfortable with. i honestly think that one day people will be free from these various petty issues. one day it just won't matter. we like to think of ourselves as really "evolved" but it only takes one little event to see that, under the surface, alot of things haven't really changed.
i do think they will one day though =p